I once had a male friend who hesitantly admitted that he masturbated often. He was confused about the acceptability of this action though, because he couldn’t find any clear answers in the bible about the Lord’s heart on the matter. He wanted to live in righteousness, but he didn’t have a clear understanding concerning his urges. He needed a good perspective that would help him decide what he was going to do with these human cravings.
Here is a perspective from my spirit specifically for unmarried people……
The bible does not seem to specifically address this and other human tendencies for an individual to create personal desirable feelings for their body, even though verses may speak to each person’s spirit in relation to life situations in their current season. The bible does insist on believers honoring the Lord with their bodies (1 Corinthians 6:20) and that whatever you do, to do it all for the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). Again, these may look different to each life.
That being said, people ought to consider carefully when and if they decide to personally pleasure themselves sexually- how it could affect them on a daily basis, if it will negatively impact their relationship with the Lord (such as distract, become a mastering force, lead to unwise choices, etc), and take away from their future spouse.
Choices are capable of negatively affecting a person’s life if doing it without discernment or meditation….
‘Desire without knowledge is not good’ ~Proverbs 19:2
In the area of personal gratification, lack of consideration and understanding of the body is not good because when the body has experienced different amounts of pleasure, it will surely crave it again and perhaps more frequently— what if giving in constantly to urges works like someone becoming too dependent on antidepressants or pain medication? These are both taken to quench the emotional and physical side of things. But as the body becomes more satisfied with the relief they bring, if not careful, the person might crave more frequent dosages than they should or that wouldn’t suffer consequences for. Also, for some people, they have become ‘immune’ to their medication (no longer affective) and have need for something different or stronger.
In relation to private pleasure, the curiosity or urge for more and greater satisfaction is always a real concern.
Everyone does not fall in the same ways, but I have to wonder how many people who pleasure themselves, with every urge, ends up led into sex with someone or someone’s outside of marriage because feeling was no longer exciting and pleasurable enough alone
….(SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE IS NOT A WISE THING, NO MATTER HOW RAMPANT AND COMMON IT IS IN THE PRESENT TIME).
Now, in relation to a future marriage, I wouldn’t want to take away from the excitement and curiosity of playfulness in marriage, and pleasuring oneself often could threaten to do that.
Marriage creates an outlet for those sexual cravings and curiosities which can help contribute to the strength between spouses, because excitement is vital. The spouses can explore ideas together without already being ‘used to’ or bored with the feelings of pleasure going into the marriage. In my opinion, it is more exciting to save as much as possible for that future husband or wife!