Wait Up for The Lord

grayscale close up photo of woman holding flower crown running in grass fieldIn the waiting period for that tailor-made spouse, a person must examine through prayer and meditation to make sure that he or she is not running ahead of the Lord.

The Spirit had prompted me to examine this in myself after the Spirit warned me through a fellow believer.  This believer and I had not even been discussing anything concerning this idea.  It was a very rough realization to see that I had indeed been running ahead of the Lord when I was believing and saying that I was ready for a relationship.  I discovered that I hadn’t yet been ready in my own heart to want to receive it yet.  And though I have now come to that readiness, I wondered about ministry opportunities I may have missed while focusing too far ahead in my life.

In all blessings and circumstances, both the Lord and us can benefit from making sure we are not outrunning Him.  The Lord is benefitted because it allows Him unhindered appreciation from us on current blessings that would otherwise be broken by an impatience for the next blessing.

We are benefitted when we keep a check on this because then we aren’t wearing ourselves out with disappointment and anger at the Lord on failed efforts to make something happen.  My relationship with the Lord was hindered by a wall of disappointment and misconceptions from wondering if He really did want to bless me with what i asked.  He certainly does want to bless me with what I ask and is always blessing me and everyone with something,  for the bible states

We have all received one gracious gift after another from His abundance (John 1:16)

He deserves thanks and acknowledgement through appreciation of one blessing at a time, though.

I can see the extreme benefits of not jumping ahead of the Lord in the gift of marriage.  Every day with your spouse is so precious and that time shouldn’t be rushed, unless you want to lose that special time with them.  For example, a friend of mine had constantly been worrying about when and how she was going to get pregnant.  That is what she was focused on as far as her sex life with her husband.  I had to remind her that intimacy with her husband was so special any time and that was the blessing she ought to want to appreciate at that point.  She could count on her desire for a baby to be fulfilled eventually and then she would have even more joy in her life, but her husband is the bigger blessing and she had him there.

Satan’s network of darkness would love to rob the Lord of our thankfulness/appreciation, trust, and enjoyment in anything. After all

The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My (the Lord’s) purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life (John 10:10)

The Lord wants to bless us and let us savor each prayer come true….and He deserves that joy and appreciation.  So don’t wear yourself out by running too fast.  Enjoy the resting points along the way!

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Channeling the Craving

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I once had a male friend who hesitantly  admitted that he masturbated often.  He was confused about the acceptability of this action though, because he couldn’t find any clear answers in the bible about the Lord’s heart on the matter.  He wanted to live in righteousness, but he didn’t have a clear understanding concerning his urges. He needed a good perspective that would help him decide what he was going to do with these human cravings.

Here is a perspective from my spirit specifically for unmarried people……

The bible does not seem to specifically address this and other human tendencies for an individual to create personal desirable feelings for their body, even though verses may speak to each person’s spirit in relation to life situations in their current season.  The bible does insist on believers honoring the Lord with their bodies (1 Corinthians 6:20) and that whatever you do, to do it all for the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31).  Again, these may look different to each life.

That being said, people ought to consider carefully when and if they decide to personally pleasure themselves sexually- how it could affect them on a daily basis, if it will negatively impact their relationship with the Lord (such as distract, become a mastering force, lead to unwise choices, etc), and take away from their future spouse.

Choices are capable of negatively affecting a person’s life if doing it without discernment or meditation….

‘Desire without knowledge is not good’ ~Proverbs 19:2

In the area of personal gratification, lack of consideration and understanding of the body is not good because when the body has experienced different amounts of pleasure, it will surely crave it again and perhaps more frequently— what if giving in constantly to urges works like someone becoming too dependent on antidepressants or pain medication?  These are both taken to quench the emotional and physical side of things.  But as the body becomes more satisfied with the relief they bring, if not careful, the person might crave more frequent dosages than they should or that wouldn’t suffer consequences for.  Also, for some people, they have become ‘immune’ to their medication (no longer affective) and have need for something different or stronger.  

In relation to private pleasure, the curiosity or urge for more and greater satisfaction is always a real concern.  

Everyone does not fall in the same ways, but I have to wonder how many people who pleasure themselves, with every urge, ends up led into sex with someone or someone’s outside of marriage because feeling was no longer exciting and pleasurable enough alone


Now, in relation to a future marriage, I wouldn’t want to take away from the excitement and curiosity of playfulness in marriage, and pleasuring oneself often could threaten to do that. 

Marriage creates an outlet for those sexual cravings and curiosities which can help contribute to the strength between spouses, because excitement is vital.  The spouses can explore ideas together without already being ‘used to’ or bored with the feelings of pleasure going into the marriage.  In my opinion,  it is more exciting to save as much as possible for that future husband or wife!





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An Appealing Nature


In a letter to the Corinthians, the apostle Paul makes a statement to the church 

    I appeal to you with the gentleness and kindness of Christ ~2 Corinthian 10:1

My Lord does not have a forceful nature, as the world does, and is not demanding or degrading in assuring accomplishment in what He desires.  Neither is He a burdensome or forceful companion in His relationship with us.

My Lord truthfully claims, 

    Let me teach you, because I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls ~Matthew 12:29

This approach is such a welcoming gate, demonstrating that Love is not something to be feared or something unpleasant to receive .

The Lord IS love.  NOT the world.

This contrast in natures is like the difference between condemnation (worldly darkness) and conviction( Lord/love)….

Where condemnation is a harsh breaking down of the life fuel of hope…

But conviction is a gentle hand softly facing you in the wisest direction

His nature from the darkness is the difference between stirred chaos and calm silence, for

A gentle answer quiets anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath ~Proverbs 15:1

When unrest shakes me intensely, I am soothed only by the lullaby of the non-threatening gentleness and beautiful, appealing humility that is the nature of my Lord. 




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Serious Training Sessions through the given Spirit of self-discipline

adult black and white border collie

My cousin had come for a visit one day, bringing her well-trained sheepdog, Flynn.  He was well behaved and pleasant to be around, as he didn’t leave me concerned about being jumped on and leaving me with dirty paw-prints.  Flynn’s behavior was the result of my cousin practicing and working with him daily on obedience. 

I see spiritual significance in this concerning the believers’ life…not about dogs learning tricks, but about the importance of daily discipline.  How important daily practice is in an increasingly influential world environment where unhealthy habits can be picked up almost unnoticeably if a believer is too careless. 

Temptations in our lives, as an example, take daily resistance of those things that we know to cause unhealthy thoughts, actions and hindrances in our relationship with the Lord and with others.

A regular client at work comes to mind who seemingly had a wonderful Godly marriage.  Unfortunately, he failed to take seriously the use of daily discipline from his temptations to protect his marriage.  He continually didn’t avoid spending time alone with another female and as he later reluctantly shared, he had blindly become mastered by a lack of self-control.  Two affairs cost him that original marriage and his relationship with his daughter.

On the other side of the spectrum is a friend who had been addicted to porn until the Lord had helped her take control over it.  Every day required avoidance, in which she put into practice by rejecting urges she was feeling and avoided anything she could that would pull her back in, through the Spirit.  After continual training, the temptations weakened and avoidance became easy… to this day she has remained the master over her former downfall.  

I truly believe the differences between these two life stories are knowledge and understanding (and a lack of) about spiritual matters such as authority, being truly led by the Spirit and maybe even more so, a lack of truly knowing the Lord’s character.

There is such truth when the Lord says,

“My people perish for a lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6)

and the word perish is not limited to just a literal physical death.  My paraphrase of this verse goes “The Lord’s people are deprived from having an abundant and victorious life when they have a lack of knowledge of the Truth and spiritual matters.”

We are capable through the Spirit, to walk victorious through anything, because the Word states that

“God has not given us a Spirit of fear and timidity, but one of power, love and self-discipline  ~ 2 Timothy 1:7

We have a Spirit that gives us power and makes us capable of being victorious in discipline!  Knowing that gift, if anything shows the generosity of the Lord!  And having knowledge of the powerful Spirit we have been given, as well as understanding about following the Spirit’s leading.

Pray about daily discipline…for the Spirit IS capable of leading you to master any downfall or desirable discipline.  It is then good, after learning something of spiritual matters, to

Keep putting into practice all you learned and received (Philippians 4:9)

Continue benefial practices or avoidance in personal areas that are unfruitful dispite how we feel at the moment, be it laziness, curiosity, etc. because every single time and day is significant, helpful, and beneficial!

“I keep on disciplining my body, making it serve me so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not somehow be disqualified”  ~1 Corinthians 9:27


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My interest in beginning a blog

My interest in beginning a blog began while I was publishing my most recent book.  I am currently the published author of three books–

   † Intimate Lessons in Holy Whispers (2019)

   † Eyes Like Lamps and Visions (2014)

   † All the Mortal Idols Abandoned (2010) 

As I have gone through the publishing process over and over, a concern has quietly lingered in my thoughts about timely messages.  At first I thought I was getting a lesson in patience and perhaps at times that was needed.  But as I had to do much waiting during the publishing process, I continued to consider the possibility that someone may need and benefit from my messages from the Lord on a more daily basis.  Also, we never know what is going to happen tomorrow.  So here is my blog to share insights, understanding, and wisdom from the Lord about His true character, about the Spirit-led life, and about Christ-centered relationships that are built with the intention of leading to marriage!

‘How good is a word at the right time!’ (Proverbs 15:23)

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